How To Get Your Child To Sleep In Their Own Bed

Harry having a sleep in his own bed


So how do you get your child to sleep in their own bed? This is a question I personally can’t answer as Harry still likes to take up residency in our room. I hold my hands up and take full responsibility for this as I was the one putting him in bed with us from being a baby. I was in a catch 22 situation, I had a baby who wouldn’t sleep accept if he was next to me and I needed sleep, so at the time ‘ making a rod for my own back’ was eclipsed by exhaustion. This nightly struggle has carried on to the present day. Things have got better and Harry will go to bed in his own room but by morning my personal little hot water bottle is wrapped around me. In total contrast, Charley has always slept in her own cot, first in our room and then from 8 months in her own room. She refuses to even lay down in our bed and there have been nights when I wished she would just curl up next to me so I can get an hours sleep. All children are different and Harry will grow out of it eventually but if like me you could do with a few practical tips to assist the transition here’s some fully qualified ex-bedsharing Mums with how they reclaimed their child free rooms ……….


  • Buy a nightlight! Mine hated sleeping in their own beds until we bought novelty night lights. The girls chose unicorns and have slept in their beds ever since!  – Laura
  • We let Poppy choose a beautiful new bed from Ollie & Leila and now our problem is getting her out of it in the morning !! Jennifer
  • Reward charts. My girls are 4 and we only in the last few months have cracked staying in their beds with the lure of a star chart with a treat – Beth
  • We have a Gro Anywhere Blind that helps to darken the rooms which has made a big difference to getting them to sleep, and a Gro Clock for my toddler which helps in two ways a) it’s a nightlight when set to sleep mode and b) she knows not to come out of her room until the sun turns on. We also have a Lindam owl nightlight that she knows how to go turn on, and leave her door open I case she needs to go to the toilet in the night. I think that feeling more grown up has helped her stay in her own room more often than in ours. – Naomi
  • A tilt torch comes on when you pick it up and goes off after 10 mins. You can also choose their favourite character! Lianne
  •  Leave their bedroom door open! As odd as it may sound they fall asleep listening to the hum of family life going on and don’t feel alone and/or isolated. Worked brilliantly for our three boys –Jo
  • Bribery with chocolate!! It worked for about two nights. Then I told him I would but him an amazing bin lorry toy if he started to sleep through (he’s three) and it has actually worked! He only gets up if something is wrong now. We had honestly tried everything. We contacted health visitors and changed dinner times, routine etc and nothing worked. He just wanted to be in with us. It may be an age thing as he now understands he is a big boy and needs to sleep in his own bed but he still tells people why he got his fab bin lorry!! – Emma
  • Their favourite story and toy/teddy bear stay with them. Also, agree to a nightlight and door 1/2 open. They do get used to their own bed. We had our 2 yr old daughter pick her own bedding too.  Ronnie   
  •  Just wait until they are ready and then when they are it’s not a battle. It took our son till he was 5 but now, there are no issues. –  Nyomi
  • Have them bunk up with a sibling or pet. My 5-year-old son was terrified of being in his room alone, and he would sleep on the floor of my bedroom every night. We finally moved his bed into his little brother’s room, and he wasn’t scared anymore. On the other hand, my daughter is scared to be in her room at night, even though she shares with her older sister. For those nights when she’s just too scared to go to sleep, we let our dog sleep with her. Lucy is just a 20 pound Boston Terrier, but to my daughter, she’s a trusted guard dog. – Nicole

And finally, probably the best advice you can take – Aby –  Never let them in your bed in the first place  –    Thanks, Aby  !!!!    


I hope these tips will help you now & in the future. If you have any advice or thoughts on sharing a bed with your child then comment below.



This post was a collaboration but all thoughts and opinions are mine and the contributors.


  1. July 10, 2017 / 7:25 am

    These are some really good tips. Mine never much liked sleeping in my bed. When they were very small they did but they just stopped. It makes me a little sad actually as I would have liked the occasional snuggle! We use LOADS of these though! We have gro blinds and gro clocks and all sorts and they seem to work! #postsfromtheheart

  2. July 10, 2017 / 9:30 am

    Aww I read this with real interest as my son who is a teenager still hates to sleep on his own. It’s a tough one. He now has our dog sleep in his room and that has helped hugely. Let’s say it’s been quite a journey this whole sleeping in your own room in this house. Some lovely tips here for those starting this stage #postsfromtheheart

  3. July 10, 2017 / 6:11 pm

    Great advice for anyone that’s struggling. Mine has never been in my bed and went into her own room at 6 months, so she doesn’t know any different. Sssh don’t tell her! #PostsFromTheHeart

  4. July 10, 2017 / 9:04 pm

    I am thankful to say that I have never had this problem, but we were strict from day one. When they were toddlers if either of mine came into our bed in the night they had a quick cuddle and then straight back to bed. It worked well…I’m not perfect though, I got up to give my son milk several times a night until he was nearly 3!!! #postsfromtheheart

  5. July 11, 2017 / 7:03 pm

    Good advice but I think we’ll just let Willow grow out of it. I quite like it if I’m honest – not the random fist in the face or feet in the belly though! #Postsfromtheheart

  6. July 16, 2017 / 12:52 pm

    We regularly have all 5 of us in our bed – I’d have bought a super king if I’d known!! #postsfromtheheart

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