The UnNatural Mother

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You may or may not know that last week I won the title of ‘Working Parent Blogger Of The Year’. An award I am extremely proud of and worked hard to get. I was up against some…

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On an average day, how much me-time do you get? May you be thinking ‘Me time? What me-time?’ and you’d be right. This is because according to a study, the average mum only gets 17 minutes to herself a day.

As mum’s, we are constantly on the go – our work is never done. But we should also make some time for ourselves. Why? Because although our kids are our world, we’re important, too. You may be a mum but you’re still a person and you deserve some time to yourself.

Having said that, it can be difficult. To help, here are some me-time ideas.

20 Minute Ideas

  • Put on your favourite playlist and dance around – it’s the perfect way to workout, release those endorphins and reduce stress.
  • Take a relaxing soak in the tub knowing you won’t be interrupted. Add bubbles, candles and enjoy a cuppa for a truly relaxing 20 minutes.
  • Have a power nap. Sometimes there’s nothing better than catching a few Z’s.
  • Unwind with a good book. You could read a chapter or zone out with an audiobook.
  • Talk a walk. You can stretch your legs, enjoy some fresh air and clear your head.
  • Turn your home into a yoga studio. It’s the perfect way to stretch and unwind.

2-Hour Ideas

  • Go for lunch. Whether you take yourself out or catch-up with a friend, you can enjoy just being an adult for a couple of hours.
  • Enjoy a long drive. Turn up those tunes, sing along at the top of your voice and stop at a drive-thru.
  • Put your feet up with a film. You could go to the cinema or relax on the sofa in your pyjamas. Either way, popcorn is mandatory.
  • Pamper yourself. Book an appointment to get your hair or nails done.
  • Go on a date night with your partner. You can enjoy some quality couple time.

Full Day Ideas

  • Take a spa day. Treat yourself to a day retreat, like Urban Retreat‘s luxury Moroccan spas, where you’ll be seriously pampered.
  • Go on a mini road trip. Venture alone, with a friend or your partner and explore a new city or enjoy a day in the country. Make sure to stop off somewhere lovely for lunch.
  • Spend the day shopping. You deserve to treat yourself to some clothes that aren’t covered in baby sick or stains.
  • Or enjoy a day in bed. And yes, chocolate is mandatory for this one.

Hopefully, these can help you to enjoy some well-deserved me-time. Do you have any other ideas?

This post was a collaboration with  Urban Retreats

You know you are starting to get old when you find yourself buying a nail gun and making wooden planters on a Saturday afternoon. With snowdrops  & daffodils popping up everywhere it got me thinking it was time to start planning what to do with our garden. We have been very lucky to move into a house with a large front and back garden but presently they are both just plain plots of grass. I would love to sit in the garden during the summer , enjoying a cold glass of wine & surrounded by sweet-smelling flowers. So to face up to my mid 30’s urge to take up gardening I have googled the best plants and seeds to get in the ground and pots this month to guarantee an RHS worthy summer garden.

Sunflower Seeds – Big Smile – A great alternative to the giant sunflower for little children to grow. Fast to flower in as little as 60 days, this attractive dwarf variety is ideal for pots and border growing. 

Pansy Seeds – Cassius Mixed – Blotched blooms in red, yellow and blue shades together with white, for summer or spring-flowering. And unlike other large-flowered varieties where flower size diminishes in hot weather, Cassius holds its bloom size, and plants are less likely to ‘stretch’ as they get older.” 

Poppy Seeds – Rhoeas – The beautiful and iconic Field Poppy is much in demand at the moment – 100 years since the start of the 1st World War. This short-lived perennial will seed itself to provide displays from year to year. 

Sweet Pea Seeds – Jet Set Mixed – What it lacks in height, it makes up for in appearance. Beautiful pastel shades of scarlet, crimson, blue, salmon, cerise and mauve look amazing in large terracotta pots or climbing through your roses and shrubs. 

Lavender Seeds – Provence Blue – Fragrance is everything with lavender and this is one of the best! Provence is a compact variety but is eminently suitable for small hedges, bedding, cutting and drying.

Freesia Seeds – Dobies Coloured Hybrids – The flowers, in a wide range of colours, are a good choice for making use of a cool conservatory or greenhouse during the winter months. 


If you would like some inspiration with how to design your dream garden then click here and take a look at recommendations from the experts at the RHS.


* Flower descriptions and link source Dobies


This post was in collaboration with SGS Engineering but all my thoughts & opinions are my own.

Even though I am now the wrong side of 35 I can still rock a bikini with the best of them. I am proud of my post-pregnancy body, sure I would love to have a stone of blubber sucked out of my thighs and ass but overall my body isn’t too shabby after housing and birthing 2 kids.The problem I now have with wearing bikini’s on holiday is the need to chase around after 2 small children while trying my best not to expose my boobs or bum. For practicality swimsuits are a necessity for family holidays and with so many fab designs and colours around you don’t need to be a #frumpymummy. River Island has always been my go-to shop for swimwear thanks to their vast choice and correct sizing. I know that if I buy a size 12 swimsuit I am not going to have the material riding up my bum or squashed bulging boobs. I have chosen my top 5 swimsuits from the River Island range to showcase for you today.


  1. Black shirred bardot sleeve swimsuit – £36 This swimsuit is perfect for anyone with a bit of a mummy-tummy as the patterned top is going to draw the attention up to your top half. Add a pair of shorts and you have the perfect outfit for exploring the shops.

  2. Orange floral mesh insert plunge swimsuit – £36  The bright orange colour will look great with a tan and the crossover front will stop any boob slippage. This swimsuit has a high leg which will elongate even the shortest of leg.

  3. Pink tropical cut out high neck swimsuit – £35 If you have a boyish figure this swimsuit will give you some curves and show off your slender stomach. The Pucci pattern is fun and sporty.

  4. Coral snake print ring zip plunge swimsuit – £35 With a zip down the front this swimsuit can be modest or racey , however, you are feeling on the day. The snakeskin pattern is 80’s chic and very easy to wear.

  5. Black rib bandeau tie side swimsuit – £36 This is a classic black swimsuit with a twist. This will suit all body shapes and add glamour to any day besides the pool.


Take a look at the rest of the range from River Island to find your perfect swimsuit. Colourful or plain they have beachwear to make your trip to Bognor feel like 2 weeks in Bermuda.

This post was in collaboration with River Island but all my thoughts and opinions are my own.




After following the online campaign of my fellow Blogger Emma from Not My First Rodeo , I have made a vow to not buy fast fashion during 2018. That doesn’t mean for one second that I won’t be buying items from Primark or other low-cost online stores, but it does mean I am only going to buy items I know I will wear to death. I have an extremely bad habit of seeing a pair of jeans on sale for £5, impulse buying them and then letting them rot in the back of my wardrobe for the next 12 month never to be worn. When I had a clear out in January I toted up £143 worth of clothes & shoes still with their tags on. Luckily I have been able to recoup some of the money by selling the unused items on the Mercari App  but I have made a conscious decision to start investing in more luxury items that I know will withstand the test of time. I will be the first one to admit that some of the items in this list are obscenely expensive and a perfectly good high street version could be used, but then whats the point of a wish list, if you can’t, wish for the Crème de la Crème.

What On The List ?

I have chosen a selection of clothes & accessories that will help transition from Winter to Spring and then be perfect for cooler Summer days. All the styles will not date and give plenty of opportunities to be worn. Buying some comfy, cosy cashmere items is high on my list for Spring. Nothing looks chicer and easy to put together than a pair of well-tailored jeans with a cashmere jumper. Throw on a pair of simple white pumps or go the whole hog and wear a fancy heel and your day outfit is transformed instantly to into night. The sun may not be quite high in the sky but a pair of statement sunglasses is going to protect your delicate under eye skin and hide your bloodshot eyes after a few too many vino’s. For the colder mornings, I really love the present trend of leopard skin coats. Hoping to look less Bet Lynch and more Kate Moss I have I choose this very understated version from French Connection. Everyone women need a designer handbag and if you are going to invest it may as well be Chanel. Vestiaire has a great selection of pre-loved bags all looking for new homes and owners to show them off.I have never had the desire to have any tattoo’s done but as I start drifting towards 40 I do feel I need to rebel a little bit. I would like to get a few more piercings in my ears starting with my Helix. This also means I will need a selection of fab new earrings to decorate my lobes. My No1 buy this spring is to invest in a dress from Needle & Thread. I spent 2 whole hours modelling this seasons dress collection at Selfridges last weekend. The appliqué is so delicate and beautiful, is a treat just to try their dresses on. The range starts from a reasonable £150 to a more serious investment of £600. They are the type of dress you could easily get 10 years worth of wear out of so this is top of my list to save for ( or maybe splurge on). What items are on your list to buy this Spring? Maybe you want a whole new wardrobe or just one statement item. Comment below and let me know.