From being a newborn baby Harry always had a dummy and he (we) became dependent on it to soothe him and help him sleep.Now I’m going to put my hands up and say that hubby & I never tried very hard to get rid of ‘bobo’ as it was the one thing that could calm our very active child in the evening. We made the decision 12 months ago that as Harry would be going to school ‘BoBo’ had to go. Here I will tell you how we said ‘Bye,Bye to BoBo’ once and for all.
Mission ‘The Baby Elf Appeal’
I read lots of blogs and articles of how to start the process of dummy removal and the best tip I found was one that said to use an event such as moving house, Birthday, Christmas to distract the child and offer the dummy removal in reward for a present. Last year was the 1st time Harry got excited about Christmas so I sat him down and explained that Father Christmas had called me and the Baby Elf’s needed his ‘bobo’ but in return Father Christmas had given me £5 to buy him a toy. I produced a large envelope that I then got Harry to decorate and placed the 4 dummy’s we had inside it .While we were on a roll we walked straight to the post box and I then got Harry to post the package.We stood for a moment at the post box to discuss what a good boy Harry was for giving the baby Elf’s his ‘bobo’ and went straight to the toy shop to collect his reward.
The first 2 hours were fine but when Harry started getting tired he did get upset. He looked a bit cross at me but (and this is the hard/genius bit) I reminded him that he was the one that posted them in the box and not me. It was going to be a 50/50 if he would go into a full-scale tantrum but he didn’t and just accepted it and went to bed no problem. 3 days later a rogue dummy was found under the sofa by Harry and instead of putting it in his mouth he wanted to post it to Father Christmas. Harry still talks about the Baby Elf’s who have his ‘bobo’ and is rather proud of himself for his charity donation.
Key Points For Success
- Sit down with your child 1-1 and explain what is going to happen.
- Make the removal into a game and decorate a box or envelope to put the dummies into
- Get your child to do the posting / leave the box somewhere ( e.g in the woods for the Faries )
- Chat to your child about how proud you are of them for giving the dummy away
- Offer a small reward
- Most of all stay strong. Prepare for a meltdown near bed/nap with additional toys and thrown in a couple of extra stories for good measure.
There is never going to be a perfect time to take away a much-loved item from your child but making it into a game or offering a reward can take the string out of the process. This was a great success for us and when the time comes I will probably follow the same steps with removing Charley’s dummy from the house. For this year anyway, the Baby Elf’s will have to make do with Harry’s postal donation.
How did you finally get rid of your child’s dummy? Have they still got one they refuse to give it up? Comment below