So how do you get your child to sleep in their own bed? This is a question I personally can’t answer as Harry still likes to take up residency in our room. I hold my hands up and take full responsibility for this as I was the one putting him in bed with us from being a baby. I was in a catch 22 situation, I had a baby who wouldn’t sleep accept if he was next to me and I needed sleep, so at the time ‘ making a rod for my own back’ was eclipsed by exhaustion. This nightly struggle has carried on to the present day. Things have got better and Harry will go to bed in his own room but by morning my personal little hot water bottle is wrapped around me. In total contrast, Charley has always slept in her own cot, first in our room and then from 8 months in her own room. She refuses to even lay down in our bed and there have been nights when I wished she would just curl up next to me so I can get an hours sleep. All children are different and Harry will grow out of it eventually but if like me you could do with a few practical tips to assist the transition here’s some fully qualified ex-bedsharing Mums with how they reclaimed their child free rooms ……….
- Buy a nightlight! Mine hated sleeping in their own beds until we bought novelty night lights. The girls chose unicorns and have slept in their beds ever since! – Laura
- We let Poppy choose a beautiful new bed from Ollie & Leila and now our problem is getting her out of it in the morning !! Jennifer
- Reward charts. My girls are 4 and we only in the last few months have cracked staying in their beds with the lure of a star chart with a treat – Beth
- We have a Gro Anywhere Blind that helps to darken the rooms which has made a big difference to getting them to sleep, and a Gro Clock for my toddler which helps in two ways a) it’s a nightlight when set to sleep mode and b) she knows not to come out of her room until the sun turns on. We also have a Lindam owl nightlight that she knows how to go turn on, and leave her door open I case she needs to go to the toilet in the night. I think that feeling more grown up has helped her stay in her own room more often than in ours. – Naomi
- A tilt torch comes on when you pick it up and goes off after 10 mins. You can also choose their favourite character! Lianne
- Leave their bedroom door open! As odd as it may sound they fall asleep listening to the hum of family life going on and don’t feel alone and/or isolated. Worked brilliantly for our three boys –Jo
- Bribery with chocolate!! It worked for about two nights. Then I told him I would but him an amazing bin lorry toy if he started to sleep through (he’s three) and it has actually worked! He only gets up if something is wrong now. We had honestly tried everything. We contacted health visitors and changed dinner times, routine etc and nothing worked. He just wanted to be in with us. It may be an age thing as he now understands he is a big boy and needs to sleep in his own bed but he still tells people why he got his fab bin lorry!! – Emma
- Their favourite story and toy/teddy bear stay with them. Also, agree to a nightlight and door 1/2 open. They do get used to their own bed. We had our 2 yr old daughter pick her own bedding too. Ronnie
- Just wait until they are ready and then when they are it’s not a battle. It took our son till he was 5 but now, there are no issues. – Nyomi
- Have them bunk up with a sibling or pet. My 5-year-old son was terrified of being in his room alone, and he would sleep on the floor of my bedroom every night. We finally moved his bed into his little brother’s room, and he wasn’t scared anymore. On the other hand, my daughter is scared to be in her room at night, even though she shares with her older sister. For those nights when she’s just too scared to go to sleep, we let our dog sleep with her. Lucy is just a 20 pound Boston Terrier, but to my daughter, she’s a trusted guard dog. – Nicole
And finally, probably the best advice you can take – Aby – Never let them in your bed in the first place – Thanks, Aby !!!!
I hope these tips will help you now & in the future. If you have any advice or thoughts on sharing a bed with your child then comment below.